Nothing to say?

    You have to make a tough point. No, the customer can't have an exception to the store policies. No, your employee didn't earn a bonus this year. It's bad news and you expect an argument, but you will not be changing your position. Sometimes you just have to let people figure it out. They know, and you know, but if you talk, you lose.

    If you have already stated your case clearly it is time to stop talking. You may get arguments and rationalization. Well, I was absent from class for a reason. Can't I make up the work? You might repeat "no" one more time, but then stop. If you have laid the proper groundwork, you are done. Let's say you are managing a group and find it necessary to fire an individual for failing to perform basic duties of the job. You have delivered verbal and written warnings, so the employee knows exactly where the matter stands. Call the employee in, review the situation, and come to the inevitable conclusion. A short version of this talk with all the polite words left out would be "You received two warnings about your failure to perform your duties. You knew that if the situation did not change you would be let go. I have documentation that you have continued to neglect your work. We need to ask you to clean out your desk and go."

    Here's the turning point. The employee will either comply or begin a discussion. The time for such conversations has past. There is no room for discussion if you've done your job. You've explained everything throughout the process, made sure of your facts and documented everything. There are no loopholes for the employee to bring up. So don't be drawn into an argument. You might say something that will be used against you. As the excuses and babbling (or crying) begin, simply listen and wait for a pause. Stand up, open the door to your office to signal that the conversation is at an end. Don't answer objections or accusations, make a simple statement to close the talk if you must, like "You need to get started." Remember, this is the end of a process. Any worthy objections should have come up long ago. Anything further you say will create confusion and prolong the agony.