You know there are people around you who profoundly disagree with you on matters of politics, religion, health, finance, morality, asthetics, cuisine, and sports. You are convinced that one or two of these items are matters of life or death. You are determined to enlighten your less advanced brethren (and sistern). You immediately begin speaking up. You encounter instant resistance and hostility. Time for a new approach.
You want honest dialog, right? You would like your colleagues to see the error of their ways. Sooo...don't come out and declare yourself so quickly. When you walk up to someone and push them, there first reaction is to push back, right? You force them to take a strong stance. So it goes with discussions. Try this instead. Let's say that your friend is just convinced that candidate A is just about perfect. Start out closer to his position, using a statement like, "You're sure you're voting for A, aren't you? Would you say her views are exactly like yours on most issues?" Bring out a couple of differences in a cordial manner. Discuss these issues first. The key here is to identify possible points where your discussion partner does see weaknesses in their position, and to encourage them to spend time thinking about them.
Warning here: DON"T OVERDO IT! Most of the effect of this type of discussion will be internal. If you appear to be pushing an advantage or gloating, it's Game Over. Just draw your friend into taking a look at another side of an issue. Considering how human beings actually operate, that is plenty to accomplish in one day. Never forget that you can always have another talk with someone you are getting along with.
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